How Often Do You Give Compliments?
I was standing in my bathroom going about my nightly skincare routine when it happened. It’d been a long, stressful day and this 10-minute routine is one that always leaves me feeling a little bit more relaxed and pampered. Did it erase all the annoyances and frustrations I’d felt that day? No, but it’d didn’t hurt either. In the middle of my routine, my phone buzzed and I looked down to find a message from my sweet friend, Emily. I swiped it open and started reading. It was a long one and by the end of it, my eyes had welled up with tears.
She’d sent me the sweetest message, a compliment about my writing and how it had improved over the years which meant the world to me—especially coming from her, because Emily is an amazing writer. I, on the other hand, used to hate writing, so it always came a bit as a surprise that I chose blogging. Either way, the point of this story is not to enlighten you guys to my amazing writing skills, because they still have a long way to go, no, the point is that Emily didn’t have to say anything. But, she did and she expected nothing in return—the mark of a true compliment. She took time out of her busy evening (she works full-time, is a wife, mom to an adorable toddler, has another baby on the way AND runs her blog) to type up that long message and hit send.
It probably took her all of 10 minutes, but it meant the world to me.
It made me think about compliments, kind words and how much power they truly have. How did you feel the last time someone paid you a genuine compliment? Amazing, I bet.
I find myself thinking good things about people all the time…
“She’s working so hard at her job and she totally deserved that promotion!”
“Her photography is beautiful—I can’t believe she’s self-taught!”
“I know she’s exhausted, but oh my gosh, she’s such an amazing mom—I don’t know how she does it!”
But, how often do I actually open my mouth to tell that person what a great job they’re doing, or take the time to sit down and write them a text or email letting them know that I think they’re awesome? Rarely, but why?! I love hearing nice things like this, and surely, everyone else does too!
Since receiving that message, I’ve been trying to speak (or type) the nice things I notice about people. And, you know what? It feels good—really good. In fact, it feels just as good to give a compliment as it does to receive one. A few kind words can totally empower another woman, which in turn will leave you feeling empowered. What a cool process, right?! Sometimes it feels like there’s not enough positivity in the world, so let’s add some! If you’re up for it, I challenge you to compliment someone today—a friend, family member, or heck, even the girl working behind the counter at the grocery store—and see how it feels!
Do you freely give compliments or do you usually keep things to yourself? What was the last compliment someone paid you and how’d you feel afterward?