Top: Short Sleeve Notch Shirt, also comes in a few solid colors—I’m wearing a small | Jeans: Farrah Skinny Jeans, I’m wearing my regular size | Sunnies: Leonard Sunglasses, my exact color is sold out, but these are easily one of my favorite pairs—I love the circle shape, so retro, but still classic! | Bag: The Form Bag, this bag is a new favorite, especially for work days—it fits my 15″ laptop and the strap is adjustable so it can be worn crossbody too, it also comes in black and green | Shoes: Leopard Slides, these were gifted a few years ago, but I love them! they come in a lighter leopard print now, but I also linked a few more affordable pairs here and here | Lip Color: Lip Color in Brunch
How many times have people told you things about yourself that weren’t true, but you believed anyway. You’re not smart enough, you don’t have the right degree, you’re not creative! Guys, these are all LIES!
I used to be held back by things like this—you can’t make money with an art degree, you don’t have a degree in web design, don’t risk your job on starting your own business. Can you imagine if I’d listened to them? Where would I be? Still working for my family business?! Would I have taken the risk to move to Chicago and figure it out? Would Rob and I end up together? And what about sweet Owen?! It’s crazy to think about the what-ifs, isn’t it?
When you think about those lies, think of your own ‘what-ifs’” – what if I did go after the things I want. What could that mean? Freedom? More travel? A job you’re excited about?
It’s easy to get caught up in these things, especially when we’re told them over and over again, but today, I’m giving you permission to dismiss these lies and start believing your personal truths.
It’s fun to prove people wrong, isn’t it?
Nine Lies That Are Holding You Back
I’m Too Old
FALSE. My mom is my greatest example of this. In her 50s, she decided she wanted to get her yoga certification and guess what, she did. She didn’t let the fact that she was twice the age as most people in her class scare her off. She’s living proof that you’re never too old to go after what you want. And, mama, I love you, you’re not old at all!
You’re Not Good Enough
Ugh, this one can apply to so many scenarios. Maybe you’re the one telling yourself this. I’ve done it. It’s the easiest way to get hung up on your big idea or goal. But the truth is that you ARE good enough, and you are ENOUGH just the way you are!
I Don’t Know What I’m Doing
Um, does anyone when they first start out?! Most entrepreneurs will likely tell you that they didn’t really have any idea what they were doing when they started. I actually think that’s a good thing. Why? Because you’re not held back by your worries, fears or trying to do things a specific way. You’re thinking on your toes and acting in the best interest of you or your business in the moment. Of course you don’t know exactly what to do, but you’ll figure it out!
You Don’t Have the Time
I know this one all too well. But, what could you cut out of your life to make more time. It’s not that you don’t have the time, you’re just not prioritizing your time correctly to make time for the things you want to be doing. It might mean giving up a girl’s night once a month to go back to school or take an online course, but isn’t a few girls nights worth changing the whole trajectory of your life?
I’m too Scared I’ll Fail
Starting a business is scary! You have no idea if it will work, if your product will sell, etc. But, that’s part of the journey. Instead of thinking about it as scary, think of it as an adventure! You don’t know what’s going to happen, but you’re also not just making random decisions and trying any new thing. Be thoughtful and intentional with your decisions as you start and grow your business. Find a mentor to help you out, read business blogs and listen to podcasts. There is so much amazing (free) information out there right now, that can help you to be successful!
And lastly, one thing I’ve learned is that failure is actually a good thing. We learn a lot from our mistakes and bumps in the road, so even if you fail, you didn’t really—you just learned a whole lot of things about how not to run a business.
My Idea Isn’t That Good
I think this one is a huge one! An idea is what makes it all come together, right? And knowing if your idea is good or not is tough. But here’s the thing, you’ll never know until you start. Do some testing before, see if there’s competition, if it already exists, and brainstorm ways to do things better.
I’m Not an Expert
Me neither. These days, you don’t have to be an “expert” to have authority on a subject. Passion and real life experience make up for your lack of a degree in a certain subject. Obviously, don’t give out serious medical advice if you’re not a doctor, but you get the my point, right?
I’m Too Shy
Guys, believe it or not, I’m a little on the introverted side. I’m a very open person and love connecting with the people, but I’m most definitely not the biggest personality in the room. And that’s a big reason why I gravitated towards an online business instead of motivational speaking or something in person. I feel most confident when I’m sharing my thoughts via words. We all have lots of personality inside of us, but it can be scary to show it to the world. There are many avenues that allow you to shine and still be comfortable in your skin!
I’ll Probably Fail
Can we get over failure? Guys, failure is not a bad thing! Yes, in the moment, it may seem like the worst thing ever. Maybe you lost money, clients, etc., but in the long run, failures teach us more than we could ever imagine and usually lead us to the thing that we’re meant to do. Every successful entrepreneur I know has had many failures before finding their big thing, so just know, you’re in good company here!
What lies have you believed that slowed you down or held you back from something you wanted to do? What is something you still want to do but are scared to do?!
P.S. Let me know what you think about the style notes at the top of the post? Helpful!? I hope so!