How to Be Happy with the Body You Have

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I think we all have something about our bodies that we wish we could change. I can think of two things off the top of my head that I’d love to change about my body if I were granted a couple of wishes from a genie. But the reality is, I’m stuck with those things. And sure, you could make the case for plastic surgery and say that plenty of things we don’t like could be solved, but for the sake of this conversation (and our wallets), I want to talk more about how we can find peace and contentment with our mamas gave us.

In a world where we’re constantly being told what beautiful is, it can be draining and overwhelming, so how do we go from hating our bodies (or parts of our bodies) to loving them, no matter what we’ve been given?

It starts with showing yourself a little gratitude and kindness—every single day. I bet by the end of this story you’ll be feeling a lot better about whatever it is that bothers you about your own body.

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Beauty Comes in Many Different Forms

Just because you’re not a six-foot blonde with perfect curves, glowing skin and long legs doesn’t mean you’re not beautiful. There are so many different definitions of beautiful and just because we may not fit that exact mold doesn’t mean we’re not our own kind of gorgeous. Real women come in all different shapes and sizes, so let’s try to not judge a book by it’s cover, okay?

It’s Not All About What’s on the Outside

Duh! But, it’s always a good reminder. When you’re feeling down about other things, remind yourself of all the other amazing things about you. Maybe you’re smart, funny, witty, kind, compassionate, patient, generous or a really good friend. Those are all amazing and sexy traits that come from inside, that make you a more beautiful person on the outside.

Remind Yourself of What You Do Love

For all the things you might want to change, there’s got to be some things you love about your body. What are they—your eyes, or maybe your smile? Your strong legs that carry you through your day job and allow you take care of your family when you get home? A patient and compassionate heart that allows you to do your job well? If you really think about it, I bet you can find gratitude for parts of yourself—both inside and outside—that will remind you that you’re actually pretty awesome. You may even come across a few things that surprise you!

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Wear Something That Flatters You

One of the easiest ways to feel comfortable in our own bodies is to dress in something that flatters our figure. If you feel amazing in what you’re wearing, it can really do a number on your whole perspective that day. Not sure what styles are most flattering for your body type? Do a quick Google search, there’s been thousands (maybe millions) of articles written about what type of clothing and fit looks the best on different body types. But, at the end of the day, wear what YOU feel good in, because that’s all that really matters! For me, I feel best in a dress, preferably a sleeveless one that defines my waist, like the one I’m wearing here.

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Work on What you Can Change

As females, a lot of the things we worry about are related to our shape, and the good news is that we actually do have some control there. Okay, no, you can’t make yourself taller or shorter, but if you wish you had toned arms or stronger legs, hit the gym! Do some research on what exercises are most effective at targeting the areas you want to change. If you want it bad enough, you’ll make it happen. For me, I really wish I didn’t have oily skin. My mom always tells me I’ll be happy when I’m older, but right now, I’d like to not break out like an 18-year old. Since I can’t totally change that, I’ve picked up better skincare habits over the past year and it’s made a big difference. Using a face mask 2-4x a week has been one of the most helpful things for my oily skin!

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Give Yourself Some Gratitude

A few weeks ago, I shared my secret to getting my mornings started on the right foot. It starts with the reciting of my positivity mantra. If you find yourself struggling, I couldn’t recommend this trick more! It’ll put you in a good mood from the instant you wake up and helps build confidence over time.

Loving our bodies and finding gratitude for them doesn’t happen overnight, but with practice and time, it gets easier. So, tell me—how do you show gratitude for your body each day? What other tips do you have for feeling confident with the body you’ve been given?

BTW, 6 ways to escape comparison, and 20 simple ways to practice self-love.

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