Coffee Chats—November 18
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As much as I love the holidays, I know it can get overwhelming, so I wanted to break up all the gift guides and holiday content with a fun Q&A post! I always love seeing what questions you guys ask and LOVE answering them! I used to do this on Insta Stories, but they go away so fast, so I’m hoping moving them to the blog will be more helpful and a fun little series! P.S. I’m thinking of making this a regular series, so you if you have any questions, submit them here!
Coffee Chats—November 18
What does your husband, Rob, do for work?
I got this question several times, haha! I know Rob doesn’t make too many appearances on the blog, he prefers it that way, so it’s not much of a surprise that people want to know more about him! Rob has always worked in finance and currently works for an investment firm in downtown Chicago.
Even though he doesn’t make too many appearances on the blog, he happily obliges when I ask for family selfies 🙂
Have you ever been treated for PCOS?
I haven’t and I’m very thankful. If you are suffering I can’t offer much advice, but I read the book WomanCode and she talks about how to naturally heal from PCOS through diet and lifestyle changes. Worth a read if you’re suffering!
Where did you get the cute velvet jumper?
It’s from Madewell and is currently on sale! I’m 5’8″ and wearing a 2 so you can get an idea for length. This velvet jumpsuit so pretty and such a nice alternative to a dress for the holidays. Expect to see it in a style post very soon!
Favorite maternity jeans?
Madewell again! They have both the side elastic panel, low cut style and the over-the-belly style. For me, I really loved the side panel jeans for the majority of my pregnancy, but towards the end, the over-the-belly style was better (at first it was just too loose).
I love that they have the basics, but also cool styles with rips (like these and these) so you don’t feel like you’re wearing maternity jeans! As for other maternity clothes, I loved my pieces from Ingrid & Isabel and wore this dress at least 3x a week when the weather allowed for it—so comfy!
How do you split time between families during the holidays?
So glad you asked! I’ve gotten this question A LOT, and I actually wrote a whole post on it that will be up on Tuesday, so I won’t spoil it!
How do you stay organized and not frazzled between baby, work, social life, traveling, etc? How do you balance life, work, Rob, etc.?
I’m not sure that I do, haha! Some weeks are more calm and some are crazy, but I think that’s pretty normal.
Having a regular routine each morning and a loose routine each week is helpful. I know when I’ll be able to get work done and when I’ll be home with Owen. On the days where I’m home with Owen, I only work while he’s napping and try to be as present as possible and enjoy the time with him while he’s little. I also wrote a post on this topic when he was younger.
The one thing that’s majorly suffered is our social life. We’ve gotten better about booking sitters ahead of time so that we can make time for date night, but we’re not really planners so this has been hard. But, our relationship is so much happier when we’re making time and effort for it!
Another thing that has kept me from getting too stressed out about everything is just accepting that life has changed a lot. I can’t do as much as I used to and I’m finally getting okay with that. I don’t make as much money, but I’m happier when I’m not trying to squeeze the same amount of work in as I was before Owen arrived. It’s not easy, but definitely just letting some stuff go has been the biggest game-changer!
Do you like your Stokke high chair?
In one word, YES!!!! It was an investment, but the high chair is convertible, meaning that it grows with Owen over time. Eventually it works as a regular chair! What I really love about it is that it’s not really big and it fits in with our decor.
I really didn’t want a bulky piece in the corner with a childish print on it, ha! We live in a small condo, so I really like to keep our living space looking as grown up as possible. The color matches with out dining chairs. Originally, I bought the full set with the baby seat and tray attachment (which is totally necessary) and the baby seat cushion. In hindsight, I wouldn’t buy the cushion again. In a few months, it was too big with him and the cushion in it and it just got filthy. It is machine-washable though, so it’s easy to clean if you decide to get it!
Where do you find your inspiration?!
Before Owen, travel was my number one place to find inspiration (our last international trip to Portugal was amazing). Seeing new parts of the world, new cultures and just getting outside of my normal routine is always the breath of fresh air that I need.
Now that we don’t travel as much, getting out for walks, reading magazines and listening to you guys! Typically when I’m in a rut, I look back at my reader survey or straight up ask you guys what you want to see on Instagram stories and it always helps—so, THANK YOU! I also love taking a bit of break, stepping back and taking a tech-break to reconnect with the real world. It always puts things in perspective and I usually get some good ideas during that time
Have you ever considered using a fertility awareness method for family planning?
Honestly, not really! I have nothing against it, but I also know several people who got pregnant when they weren’t really wanting to while using this method. I’m a planner and I’m not ready for a second baby yet (though we do want another!). We were very fortunate and got pregnant the first time we tried with Owen, so it makes me nervous that it would happen before I’m ready.
That being said, when I was trying with Owen, I did track my fertility with an app called ‘Flo’ to give us the best chances of getting pregnant and it worked for us!
What are your favorite health tips related to exercise and healthy eats?
I try to move every single day! Easier said than done, especially in winter when it’s much harder to get all of us out the door for a long walk. But, staying active always makes me feel better and makes it easier for me to stay motivated to get to the gym or yoga.
Finding what workouts you really enjoy is so important to keeping you motivated to actually get to the gym, so take some time to figure out what you actually like! For me, it’s going to see a trainer for strength-training and going to hot yoga. I hate running, so any super cardio-focused workouts are not going to work for me.
As for healthy eats, I just try to get in veggies and/or greens at every meal. I don’t follow any specific diet, but again, I try to eat lots of fresh fruits and veggies and don’t go overboard on animal protein. I typically do have meat 2x a day, but I don’t eat a lot of it when I do—maybe half a chicken breast with dinner or some soup with chicken or ground turkey in it for lunch. In the new year, I’m working on adding a lot more healthy eats content when I’m home more. Right now I work from coffee shops, but Owen starts daycare in mid-January and I’ll be working from home then!
How do you decide what’s too personal to share?
This is a good question! I like to think I’m a pretty open book, but I don’t share everything. I think a good rule of thumb is to share what you’re personally comfortable with and pay attention to your readers’ reactions.
I’m open about my health struggles because it’s something I’ve been dealing with and has affected every aspect of my life. I like sharing this because I know how scary or difficult it can be to not know what’s wrong with you, but feel terrible. By sharing my experiences, I’m hoping to help anyone out there struggling with similar things.
Motherhood, family stuff, etc. I also like to think I’m an open book! But there are a few things I don’t share here…
I don’t share things like my personal political views on my blog or social channels because I honestly believe that everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and it’s not my place to tell you what you should believe. The same goes for religion! We’ve been lucky enough to travel a lot and been exposed to so many different cultures and it’s made me a very accepting and open-minded person when it comes to these topics. Do I have my own personal belief system? Absolutely! but I’m never going to tell you that what you believe is wrong simply because it’s different than what I believe.
That being said, feel out your own audience and decide what feels right TO YOU to share with them!
How long did you breastfeed?
I breastfeed for about 5 months and three weeks. I was just short of six weeks. For the most part, I pumped for the majority of that, which I regret because it ended up being so much more work to pump then bottle feed than it would have been to just breastfeed. Lesson learned for the next go around!
I thought six months was going to be so easy and I couldn’t have been more wrong. Breastfeeding is hard work, both emotionally and physically. So, if you’re a new mom and struggling with it, just do the best you can! Any breastmilk is better than none, and if you choose to not do it at all, that’s fine too! I 100% believe that fed is best!
I wrote a post on breastfeeding when I was in the thick of it here, so there’s far more detail in that post if you’re interested. I also wrote a post on what helped me boost my milk supply right here!
How do you motivate yourself to keep creating consistently? I have struggled big time, his entire year.
Girl, I feel ya! This year has been the hardest for me for blogging. I’ve struggled with what kind of blogger I am now that I have a kid. I used to primarily share style content, but my priorities and interests have shifted a lot this year and it’s been a tough transition, but I’m slowly figuring it out.
One of my biggest motivators is that blogging is my job right now, so if I want an income, then I need to keep creating. But honestly, I really enjoy creating and it doesn’t really feel like a struggle most of the time! Writing about the things I’m interested in or currently experiencing makes it easy to come up with content ideas. If you’re struggling, take a break! It’s okay 🙂 I’ve definitely taken some breaks here and there over this past year, but ultimately I do love blogging and sharing and taking a break helps re-inspire me!
I got a lot more questions than this, so if I didn’t answer yours yet, they’re coming next week!