Crochet Top, also here and similar here | Ripped Jeans, similar here | Sneakers, also in white and black | Leonard Sunglasses, similar here and here | Transport Tote, similar here and here | Travel Compass Necklace
A few weekends back we had amazing weather! I woke up, opened the patio door, made myself a bowl of fruit and went outside to bask in the sun and just take a moment for myself. As I sat there, I realized that this was the first time in a few weeks that I’d allowed myself to fully slow down and just soak up a blissful moment alone. I wasn’t thinking about work, or chores or our plans for that day. Just enjoying a quiet moment to myself.
It suddenly occurred to me that this was the first time in weeks I’d done this—but, why?
The first 3 months of this year I’d been focusing so heavily on my wellness routine—eating well, exercising, reading up on nutrition taking time for self-care and the effects of all that were wonderful. I felt amazing, alive and energetic. But somewhere in the past few weeks, I’d fallen off my own wellness wagon and I wasn’t exactly sure when it happened or what caused it.
In the past, I would have jumped up, written a list of things to do better that day and immediately started in on them, but I’m slowly learning that observing, being patient and not judging myself is a healthier and happier way to approach bumps like these. Instead of punishing myself with negative internal dialogue like “why did you let this happen?” or “do you really want to feel terrible again?!” or “you have no self control!” I tried my best to look at it with encouraging and forgiving eyes. At the end of the day, we’re only human, right?
My goal was to pinpoint what caused me to fall away from the things that were making me feel so wonderful, so in the future, I’d be able to identify them sooner and pull myself back on track. When I looked back on those weeks I noticed some trends. One, I wasn’t feeling that great. For a week and a half I woke up with a stuffy nose and a cough every morning. It never got worse, but it also took forever for it to go away. I should have been extra focused on eating healthy to heal faster, but by the time dinner rolled around, I’d be tired and we’d order takeout. I also hadn’t been exercising much. Even easy fitness activities, like taking Oliver for extra long walks, were cut short by all the other items on my list.
Also, my schedule was far busier than normal. As much as I try to plan ahead, some weeks or months are simply busier than others. When it rains, it pours—ya know!? I had several big projects wrapping up, a trip and our BFK Photography Workshop all happening within a week and a half of each other. By the next week, I was tired from it all and unmotivated to make major strides on new projects, to go to the gym or to get creative with our dinners.
Then I had that little lightbulb moment last Sunday, and I’m happy that I took the time to find the root cause of the problem. Will I be able to remove these problems from my life? Of course not! There’s always going to be periods of life that are busier and more stressful than others, but what I can do is find ways to honor my body during those crazier seasons and give it more of what it needs, instead of depriving it.
Why am I telling you all this? Because I wanted to remind you that the path to wellness is truly a journey, and it’s not always going to be perfect. Two weeks ago, I went out and bought myself a donut three mornings in a row! Yes, for real. Whoops! You’re going to have highs and lows and you’ll definitely need encouragement along the way, but always, always, be kind to yourself. When you hit a rut, just remember, this isn’t a quick fix. It’s a lifestyle shift and it’s not going to happen overnight! It’s one that can last your whole life, because there’s always more to learn. In fact, that’s been one of my favorite parts of this journey so far. I’ve learned more about how my body functions in the past 3 months than I have my entire life! #nerdalert
Another great way to keep yourself motivated and on track is to find partner (boyfriend, husband, fiancé, friend, sister, mom, neighbor—anyone!) who’s dedicated to making similar changes in their own life. Being able to honestly talk about the areas where you struggle with someone you trust and who won’t judge you is incredibly helpful! You could also keep a wellness journal if you want something more private. Just write down bullet point notes about how you’re feeling and what’s happening in your life each week. Simply observing little things like this can give you so much insight into what causes you stress or frustration so that you can better deal with similar situations in the future.
If you’re on your own wellness journey and are going through a rough patch, I hope this gives you a little encouragement today!
What areas do you struggle with the most with your health? Do you have a friend or accountability partner that you share things with?