Happy Wednesday guys! I’m sitting here, sipping coffee, Owen is at daycare and I’m thinking about how this year is already about 1000x better than last.
Sometimes I feel bad thinking about how tough last year was, because even though it was incredibly trying at times, it was also one of the most magical as Owen went from a teeny tiny newborn into a walking, babbling toddler. But, because I’m feeling healthier and more energetic, this year just feels right. It feels like MY year.
I’ve been a little slower on actually blogging, sorry about that, but it’s for good reason. I’ve got lots of things happening behind the scenes and hopefully I’ll be sharing the first of those with you guys VERY soon!
One thing that’s made this year feel really different and really inspiring to me is my mindset. And, to be clear, I’m talking mostly about my career here. Last year I had the constant creeping feeling that I didn’t know what I was doing or what was next. Each month felt like a rushed, hurried uphill battle on the blog front and honestly, it really sucked.
As soon as a new month started, it was like my slate had been wiped clean, and not in a good way. I was starting back at zero, with no clear idea where that month’s income will come from. Every month differs—sometimes it’s mostly sponsored content, others it’s affiliates and others, shit hits the fan and both are low. I know sometimes blogging seems like this amazing dream job, but the lack of stability really got me down last year.
Not to mention the fact that brands have been lowering their affiliate rates on a steady basis. That means, I have to work twice as hard to make the same amount of money—I mean, how could that not be discouraging?! On top of that, the consumerism of the blogging/influencer world has drained me as of late. I like to shop as much as the next person, but I don’t like to be constantly pushing stuff on you guys. It doesn’t make me feel great.
As 2018 closed and 2019 arrived, I couldn’t help but think it was time to change things up. I wrote about this in my first post of the year, and now that we’re a month and a half in, I’m so glad I chose to go the path that my heart desired instead of trying to fake it til I make it. Does that method ever really work?!
I also read a quote or snippet from some conversation (which I’ve now misplaced), but essentially the point was not to give up on what you’re passionate about. It can be hard in the beginning—you put a ton of work in and often you don’t see the return on it immediately. But, if you believe you can do it and can envision your life once you’re successful, it’s so much easier to stay the course, stay motivated and ultimately see success.
It was such an amazing and humbling reminder that good things take time. Sometimes, in the world of technology and Instagram stars, it does seem like people fall into success literally overnight. And, frankly, some people do. But, that’s not what we should ever compare ourselves to.
I’ve been putting this mindset into practice into nearly every aspect of my business (and even my personal life too—envisioning the home we’ll someday have, the life we will live, etc.). It’s been amazing at keeping me thinking positively, even when I have a bad day or hit a major roadblock. I channel my inner-Dori and repeat “just keep swimming”. Just because I don’t see immediate success, I know that I’m laying a foundation for good things to come.
It’s made me think so differently about this blog too. I no longer feel like I’m hitting the reset button every month and it no longer feels like an uphill battle I’ll never win. Instead, everything I do feels like it has purpose, it’s laying the foundation for greater things! Even if I’m not 100% sure what those are yet 😉
As a mama and business owner, I can easily get overwhelmed and discouraged, but right now, in this season of my life, I’m so thankful for this mindset shift and what it’s doing for me both professionally and personally. It’s crazy that all it takes sometimes is reframing your situation to give you a whole new outlook!
If you’re feeling stuck, discouraged, lost—I get it. But, think big picture! What does the work you’re doing today mean for your future? And, if you’re all ramped up and excited about life right now, still think of the big picture—channel that passion and remind yourself on a regular basis that what we’re working on today can mean big things for our futures. Don’t give up, be consistent and you will see success! Choose to believe in yourself and your vision of the future and it will become reality.
And, on that note, I hope you have an amazing rest of the week and that this gives you a little boost if you need it!